Lucrezia Magazine

“I don’t know, I’d probably sit there saying ‘hey guys, can I play too?’

While you two made out,” he replied, raising his eyebrows in a mock expression of hurt before laughing.

“What about a dooley blowjob?” I asked, moving down under the blankets and positioning myself between his legs.“She could teabag your balls like this,” I said from under the covers before pumping extra spit into my mouth, licking my lips, and enveloping his scrotum for few seconds. “Then I could focus on your cock,” I said before licking the head of his penis while cupping his moist testicles in my right hand. I continued the narrative, alternating hands and mouth to create the illusion of two mouths until he came. Trying to be two women at once and keep everything wet and warm engaged my mind in new challenge beyond the basic BJ.

“You and that other chick were pretty hot,” he said, when I emerged from the covers and pressed “play” on my iPod to hear the next fantasy.

Since September 2005, designer for Great Sex Games Kidder Kaper, sound engineer Coochie, and regular contributors Lorax and Laura have equipped listeners with 30-minute to hour-long episodes blending background information, inspiration, and practical how-to advice on a weekly topic. Sex is Fun balances their roadmap for exhalant hedonism with health concerns such as vaginal infections from glycerin-based lubes, toxic sex toys, and STD concerns inherent in multiple partner lifestyles. Kidder often interviews other experts from the podiverse to anchor topics such as Tantric sex, polyamory, swinging,and BDSM. I’ve combined the show with downloadable PDFs and videos to gain appreciation for unfamiliar sexual practices and lifestyles, decide what I find appealing, and learn how to negotiate my ideas with my partner. Listening to Kidder and his wife Jade on location raiding a local sex shop for bondage gear in episode 15 inspired me to take a field trip myself while my boyfriend prefers to use the product review episodes to shop online. The episodes on sex parties,monogamous group sex, and swinging have ignited discussions on what we’re comfortable working towards in our relationship and provided information on venues, clubs, and Internet listings to meet like-minded people. Sex is Fun also receives sponsorship from Boom Energy supplement and occasionally promotes this product.

Listening to Sex is Fun continues to give me new ideas to try in and out of bed, but just listening rarely gets me hot. The first time I listened to Open Source Sex while driving on the freeway, however, I engaged my clutch to downshift for my exit and felt the thick moisture of anticipation slide between my labia after twenty minutes of an erotica reading from fetish model, pirate radio hostess, and professional sex blogger Violet Blue.

The high priestess of a sex-ed media empire, Violet Blue has authored over twenty books in print on sex and sexuality, offers audiobooks from Digita Publications ,and writes a sex column for the San Francisco Chronicle. Violet Blue uses Open Source Sex as a forum to share her commercial and indy projects, accumulated wisdom, and what’s new on her radar. In shows ranging from 7 to 30 minutes she tackles well-worn topics such as the female G-spot with her own flare, interviews porn stars, and treats the listener to finger-lickin’ good erotica readings. Open Source Sex has given me an extensive greenhouse of full-grown hothouse-fantasies to peruse and transplant into my own inner garden.

Not all expert podcasts titillate and inspire. I attempted a marathon listening of the offerings on audiobook giant Audible’s Personal Life Media website while taking a long car trip, but the content left me with a wandering mind and a dried out vulva. Personal Life Media offers several sexually themed podcasts including Expanded Lovemaking, Sex, Love, and Intimacy, A Taste of Sex, and On the Minds of Men. The hosts of these podcasts are authors, intimacy workshop leaders, or urban retreat owners who conduct general interviews with other authors, intimacy workshop leaders, and urban retreat owners.

The array of vapid, generic shows centered on assembly-line style promotion of books and methods failed to engage me and I had to resort to channel surfing in rural North Carolina and Virginia for the rest of the journey. When I got back home I returned to iTunes for further penetration into the podcast world and found a big budget premature ejaculation on NBC5.com in Dr. Laura Berman’s short 5 to 10 minute podcast promoting workshops, books, and products in the Berman conglomerate. Just when Dr. Berman starts to say something interesting the podcasts usually end.

I’ll be spending the next week in the tub with my waterproof silicone vibe doing some hands-on investigation of erotica podcasts for a future issue of Lucrezia. Plus, I’ve got a few great BDSM shows such as Coffee and Submission to check out, so my boyfriend can expect to be blindfolded and bound more than usual this month—or maybe he’ll be getting a note in his computer bag asking him to tie me up and have his way with me in the name of research. Check back for these topics as well as podcast reviews on swinging, polyamorous lifestyle, Tantric sex, video podcasts, and insider sex industry interviews.

© 2007 Eva Adivar

Eva Adivar is a freelance writer and podcast aficionado who does most of her writing, listening, and sexual experimentation in Central Virginia.